1. You don't always have to compromise. For instance, one of you likes mayo, one likes Miracle Whip? Buy both. Who cares? Do you really want to fight over a condiment? Same with toothpaste, shampoo, etc. You're not going through any more because one of you is using one and one uses the other. Save your fight.
2. Divide up the duties. When we were first married, we would try and do laundry together and clean the pool together. We always fought about it, and we couldn't coordinate both of us getting stuff done. Finally, we split it up. Kyle took the pool, I took the laundry. Even though we don't have a pool now, he takes care of the mowing, I still do the laundry. No more irritation.
3. Spend some time apart. I love spending time with Kyle, even more so when I've had some time away from him. My girl time is priceless.
4. Have dinner together. We may plop ourselves down for the night in front of the tv, but not after we've shared dinner and had a good talk. You need some great talk time!
5. Whatever happens, nobody leaves. Stick in it. The crap can be tough, but if you make it through that, you'll be better on the other end of things.
So there you go, 5 lovely tips. What are your favorite marriage tips? Leave them in the comments!
4 comments:
One of my in-laws favorites is "never let the word divorce cross your lips". I haven't perfected that one, but I've come to understand and embrace the sentiment. They've been married 40-odd years. It was simply never an option for them, period.
What I've learned personally in my 16+ years is that there is never a single thing - truly - that God can't overcome. He hates divorce (Malachi) and if at least one of you is still in the fight, He will ALWAYS show up and fight with you.
(and that comes from someone who did file for divorce and had a finalization date, and pulled back the afternoon before!)
OH, and I forgot THE most important thing I have learned about marriage in 16 years.
Love is not a feeling, it's not romance, it's not the good times, it's not giving your 50% if s/he gives his/hers - it's a choice.
Every single day you make that choice to love your mate, regardless of how the day goes, how he or she acts, or anything else. Just choose to love. Give your 100% regardless of whether or not your mate is giving anything at all.
Loving regardless, by choice, overcomes all.
LOVE IT!!
Great tips! Especially love the girl nights :) keep it up you two!
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