A Rant...

My close friends know this, but I absolutely HATE it when people say "You'll understand when you're a mother." I am well aware that many things change that i can't totally relate to as I have not yet birthed a child, but I am not stupid. Don't assume I can't relate with you in some way.

Lately, people everywhere have taken it upon themselves to ask me how many kids I have, or when we are having kids, or my favorite, "You've been married almost 3 years? Oh, then you'll have kids soon!" Excuse me? Do you know something I don't? This is especially irritating because I want so badly to have kids now and can't. And before all of you start spouting out, "There's never a perfect time" or "You never have enough money" take a look at the past year in my life and tell me that now is a great time. Tell me that because I'm struggling to pay my mortgage it's ok to bring a child into this world.

Also, don't assume because I haven't had kids that I can't handle the following: crap, throw up, screaming, spills, pain. I have IBS - I've crapped more in my life than your kids have total combined. Throw up - I sat with my mother in the hospital while she went through chemo and the results. I can handle throw up, I just don't care to see it. As for screaming, whatever; spills - have you met me? and pain? I've had more broken bones than I care to admit to. If you think you're protecting me, you're just treating me like a child, and I don't appreciate it.

Finally, just stop asking. Everytime someone asks me that, my stomach drops, my heart hurts, and I'm reminded of the craptastic year our family has been through. Love me for my non-kid self and quit looking down on me because of it.

Rant Over.